Monday, November 30, 2015

Help, how do I tell my girl my bisexual fantasies

Today's question comes from a LushStories.com friend...

Coach Macy, I have been having a lot of bisexual fantasies and want to share my wife. How can I achieve what I want and still let her know she is the #1 in my life or is this a bad idea? 


Mike


Mike,



Sweetie, this can be tricky because you don't want to blurt it out and have her freak out... so you have got to take this one SLOW!

Depending on how much you two already share, or what type of entertainment you enjoy, here are a few suggestions for beginning the conversation:

If you watch porn together, do you ever watch girl-on-girl? I ask because this tends to be popular and fairly acceptable by women. If you do watch this, have you ever had a discussion about attraction to women or what she thinks about it? 


If you have watched, discussed, joked about it... could you bring up guy-on-guy with her in a comparison type scenario. So, for example next time watching girl-on-girl, you could ask, do you or your girlfriends think guy-on-guy porn is sexy the way men sometimes like girl-on-girl?


OR 


Maybe sometime after she has given you an amazing blowjob (or any blowjob ;-)  you could ask something like, "you lick me/suck me so good... it seems you get into it, what is it you like about it?" OR "you are amazing, what does it feel like when it's in your mouth"  this can simply get conversation about a cock in her mouth... maybe depending how that goes, you could say something like sometimes "I wonder what it's like, is that weird to wonder about?" just in easy conversation


OR 


Do you and your wife have anal sex ever?  Do you use your finger in her ass or a dildo?  Have you ever licked her ass?   

Does she finger your ass while giving you a blow job? Has she ever rimmed you? 

If yes to either situation, you could do a little more of that.. or if you have never done any type of anal play, you could start!  Start with asking her to rub behind your balls while giving you a blow job, direct her towards your ass... moan a lot and let her know you like it, maybe she will take the hint and do more, even penetrate with her finger... maybe not, but you can gently work up to it.

The idea is that you want to play in similar way to what you'd do if you were in a bisexual situation, so it can lead to a conversation about your fantasies eventually. You have to feel it out, but if you never talk about sex right now, then it's going to be a slow process because you'll have to build up the idea that you even talk about straight sex!

Eventually, hopefully, you could maybe hint at, joke about, watch a movie about 4somes! talk about how it might be hot to meet another married couple and fool around together. If she ever agrees to it, look for a couple that lists bisexual in their personal ad so you know that it could be a possibility and just take it one step at a time!


Hope this helps give you some ideas about how you might get started!

kisses,
Macy

Thursday, November 19, 2015

Ask Coach Macy... yes, you can ask me anything! Here is an old fave... panty sniffing! ;-)


Okay, now this is a fun dilemma!

A friend on xHamster.com, who asked not to be named, sent me this note:

Not sure if you can help me, but i'm becoming obsesed and don't know what to do about it!! lately, I keep waiting till my girlfriend goes to sleep, then i sneak out of bed to the bathroom where we keep our dirty clothes. She always sleeps naked, so her panties are fresh, sometimes even still moist when I pull them out - I just sniff and sniff them like I can't get enough holding them tight agaiist my nose and jerk off with my other hand. i don't dare cum in them cause she might see that when she does laundry plus I love smelling them as i cum! I do it almost every night now - how do i stop? Im afraid she will catch me and freak out.


I don't knew what to do Macy, help!


Well, so many things to address, where do we begin :-)


1 - There is nothing wrong with sniffing her panties! Even in secret, it's okay, there is nothing wrong with you. The scent of your girlfriend turns you on - that is a GOOD thing!

2 - Maybe or maybe not she will freak out if she catches you. She will probably be surprised, yes. If she does catch you she might wonder why you are being so secret about it - the fact that you are worried and stressed about it will trigger her to be stressed about, maybe even freak out too.

So, what to do about it? Well, what is your desire?

Do you want to continue in secret? Is that part of the turn-on for you?

or

Would you like her to also be turned on by you sniffing her panties, enjoying her scent? Do you wish you could do it more openly or even just tell her how much you like her scent?

I'm hoping you are going for the latter ;-) I can help you with that.

Here's how to introduce your turn-on to her... while getting undressed one night begin kissing her while she has her clothes still on, or at least her panties on. As you are kissing and touching her, move your mouth down her body, eventually getting to her panties with your hand, then your face and mouth... guide her to the bed for comfort so you can really get busy down there.

As you rub her through her panties, mention how it turns you on that she is so warm, even hot down there, that maybe she is turned on too and you love feeling her wetness - don't go too far if you think this will freak her out or turn her off, keep it really mild at first, work up if you need to.

As your face and mouth is there , say something simple like you love her scent, or that she smells good, that it turns you on that she is wet for you, things that make it about you and what you like, it can diffuse any apprehension she might have about her scent (sometimes women might feel that the sweaty end of day smell is not hot). Rub, even lick her right through her panties... you can slide them to the side too as you're playing down there. whatever it takes to get her to orgasm, do, but with her panties on, let her panties get even wetter through the sex play!  Then as she cums in/on her panties, quietly smell her scent, you don't even have to be obvious that you're doing it, just enjoy it for a moment.

Then show her and tell her how hard you are, how much you want her, how it turned you on to feel her cum in her panties, again, just do/say what feels natural and not forced. If you'd normally fuck her next, pull down her panties slowly, maybe even with your teeth, as you throw them to the side, quickly smell them and say how hot her wet panties are, then fuck her, make love to her, whatever you call it ;-)

Don't talk about it - if she says something, keep your answers simple, not obsessive LOL do this in little ways and over time, you can sniff them longer, eventually you may be able to ask her to masturbate with her panties on before she takes a trip somewhere, so you'll have her scent while she is away LOL

But start slow, and see what happens! In between, you can still sneak away once in a while to grab her panties out of the hamper for a midnight quickie.

kisses,

Macy

Monday, November 16, 2015

Macy's Monday Musings... can forgiveness lead to even hotter sex life?


haha this was originally posted several months ago ago, but decided to repost it now as it's for sure on my mind!  And I do repeat this practice, the list is getting smaller.  :)

Macy’s Monday Musings
Well, remember when I was going to do a 40 day love fast?

Yeah, well, I went 8 days, then 7 days, then just forgot it…until recently as I mentioned a bit last week.  And guess what, I checked the calendar and it’s been 38 days!! Woo Hoo!!!

I’m pretty proud of myself and really, it’s feeling pretty good. J  I’ve had a few ‘dates’ but kept them non-sexual, have another date tonight with the main squeeze/soulmate, but keeping it just hanging out.
After the 40 days, well, I’m not sure, but I hadn’t really planned on the 40 days, it just felt good to be clearing myself and good to not have the pressure of “I have to do 40 days”  I’m not good with rules if you don’t already know that haha!

So that has been on my mind a bit today and in clearing myself, I’ve found that I also need to clear some other stuff. Stuff I didn’t realize I was kind of hanging on to. I thought I’d worked through things, all kinds of things, not just relationships, thought it was done, moved on, no hard feelings, no hate, and then one day realize that really I hadn’t totally let it all go.
So I’m doing that.

How?

Well, as I was in a session today with an energy worker, she was feeling some issues around forgiveness, that I had been holding on to some resentments, some people that I may need to forgive. It suddenly occurred to me that really I hadn’t done that – I had moved on, forgave myself for many things, but really didn’t forgive some people who affected my life in very definite, dramatic, some even in traumatic ways. In my mind, I began saying “I forgive you….” “I forgive you…” etc. 

And the list of people, especially men, was long, it continued, when I thought okay, maybe that’s it, another person would pop into my mind.
WTF?!

I’m the Empress of Love, spreader of happiness, and I missed something?
Yep!

But, it’s okay. I forgive myself for forgetting to actually forgive those people who I’ve let go of and let go of any pain and moved on… but there was some little pieces of each of them that I’ve held on to. It’s time to let go of those little pieces that are affecting me today in subtle, yet powerful ways and that yes, hold me back from fully embracing my own amazing self.
So I’m doing it tonight after date night ;-)  and it's clearing up any leftover stuff so I can truly move to even more amazing intimacy and affection and yep, super hot multi-orgasmic sex!

When I get home, I’m going to do this practice. You might want to try it to, to forgive yourself or someone else. It’s a simple practice, do it anytime you need, as many times as you need to let it go.
Using a post-it note size paper, do these four steps. Yep, it all fits on a post-it note! It’s not about the details of the event, it’s just about the forgiveness and letting go. Of course, if you have worked through some things, you may need to talk to a counselor or coach and work through the tough stuff with someone, but at the same time or afterward, use this forgiveness practice to bring more peace to you.

Step 1: greeting
Example: Dear ____ or Hi ____ or Hey there ____ (BTW this can be addressed to YOU! Ex: Dear Macy,)

Step 2: forgiveness
Example:  I forgive you for ______ or I forgive you for not being able to forgive you yet (maybe we can’t actually say it yet)

Step 3: Letting go
Example: I am moving on or I have moved on and ____ or  I like you anyway (if appropriate or if writing to yourself)   or I’ll keep practicing until I do forgive you or I’ll keep forgiving you until I can move on

Step 4: closing

Hugs, sincerely, love, etc.

That’s it!  Then tear up the note, burn it, whatever you need to do. If you want to hang on to, hmm… okay, but don’t hang on to it long. The point is to LET GO J
Of course, it’s not magic, it’s a practice. When the stress or hurt of something comes up, write this note of forgiveness, tear it up, then DO something. Go for a walk, do a puzzle, watch tv, dance, whatever, but do something that physically and mentally takes your mind off the topic.

Then next time it pops up, do it again… as many times as needed for as long as needed.

Big hugs, hope this also helps you clear yourself to allow even more love and hot sex into your life!

Macy

 

Thursday, November 12, 2015

Ask Coach Macy... sharing past questions.. do I make up my stories?

Today's question comes from twitter friend dWayne.

dWayne asks...

 question: do you have to actually do the sex to write about it or can you just - make it up? 

Thanks for asking, dWayne!


Well, I'm an excellent and creative actress and role player. During my time as a phone sex girl, I heard and shared lots of stories and fantasies without have actually done them... many of those I can't actually write about and publish because they would cross boundaries of what is acceptable in mainstream erotica and porn. LOL yeah, it's a crazy, sexy world out there.
Anyway, so a lot of what I write about comes from real life experience... yep, I have really done some of what I write about ;-) sometimes it's the exact scene. Some of my writing has been embellished to make it more juicy and fun for you as my reader... and some sure, it's just made up!

I'll never tell... like to keep my sexy friends guessing ;-)

kisses,

Macy

Monday, November 9, 2015

Um, yeah, she could've handled it differently, but she is right


dude234 asks...

Coach Macy, 

Met a new girl a few weeks ago and last night we finally gonna to do it - but she freaked out when she got to my house and saw a little cold sore on my lip. I said, fine, don't kiss me, but we can still fool around - but she said no way, she was not going to date someone with herpes! WTF?  I don't have herpes, I just had a fu**ing cold sore. She said "cold sores are herpes" and left. BITCH I tried calling her, but she wont pick up!! I don't give a shit now, but I just wanna tell her shes a bitch and wrong. Love your stories-and your huge tits in tha purple bra and if their true, well you know the answer lLOL

thanks,

dude

Dude,

Thanks for the love!  But, sorry babe, the "bitch" could be right. Most cold sores are herpes, HSV I - which is a bit different than herpes, HSV II (the traditional genital herpes)... BUT here is the important thing you MUST KNOW NOW:

a herpes cold sore CAN absolutely be transmitted to another person and cause genital herpes!!!

Here is a good example, Dude... you meet a hot chick at the bar, it's dark, you don't notice her little cold sore, and go back to your place... she gives you a blow job without a condom, you fuck her with a condom, she leaves. You don't get her name or number... soon though your cock feels funny, you see a sore, then another, you're in pain, finally you go to the doctor - BAM you've got herpes!! Now, you'll have herpes I, but it's still on your cock and it's still herpes - and it's still forever.


So, if you have a cold sore - don't kiss a girl, don't suck a girl's tits, don't lick her pussy or ass... NOTHING ORAL - got it! You can still fuck her, highly recommend condom EVERY TIME, you can still fool around, let her suck your cock, highly recommend WITH a condom on.

There is NO safe sex... period

Not to burst the bubble on all the porn fantasies I write about ... but come on, be safe, Dude! I love ya and need you to keep reading my smut LOL protect yourself. Wonder if I'm right? Get the facts here: http://www.cdc.gov/std/herpes/stdfact-herpes.htm 

kisses,

Macy

Monday, November 2, 2015

Macy's Monday Musings...me & monogamy?

Macy’s Monday Musings

I’ve pondered lately the idea that maybe, just maybe I’d like to try a monogamous relationship, a deep, intimate, soul mate type relationship that is may not last forever, but is a commitment in the now.
It’s been a long time since I have even had a generic, run of the mill, ordinary, and monogamous relationship and much much longer since I was with someone who was like a soul mate, a best friend and lover and teller of secrets… that was probably 20 years ago!

Sure, I’ve had boyfriends, but never longer than a year, maybe year and a half. So several years ago, I decided why bother even having a monogamous relationship, they hadn’t worked out in my first 40 years of life, what would make me think they’d work out then. So, I decided what I wanted was to have amazing lovers with smart, successful, sexy, kind men!
And guess what?

That is just what I did and of course I threw into the mix a few stable boys that were great in bed and kind, but not men I was specifically attracted to as even potential public dating options. I know, I’m a snob. I have a reputation, a good one in my public life. I’m smart (school smart, not just street smart), educated, philanthropic, successful, well-known in my communities, etc. So, my image is important to me and honestly the last couple monogamous “boyfriends” I had, well, some people had no idea I was even dating them, they just thought we were friends or working together on projects. That is how different they saw those men. Honestly, it is tough to find people in general that are on the same level of thinking and living that I’m on. Which is probably a good thing, because if everyone were always searching for something more, some higher level of consciousness to move to, to live in… well nothing would get done. Trust me. I see a shiny object and think, “oh my, what is that, let me try that next.”
I laugh, you may laugh, but it’s true.

So it’s not really that I’m a snob, I just haven't appreciated the reliable, what I might call ordinary relationships that most people desire: someone to come home to, to sleep with at night, instead I’ve been attached to secrets and sex for a long time, really my whole life (yeah, watch for more on this in the future)
Maybe that is part of the problem in having long term relationships, I get bored or lose the excitement, so I have to move on. In part too, I didn’t know how to truly love on a deep, intimate level that includes physical, sexual relationship as well. Okay, I’m probably not a great friend either, I don’t stay in touch, or follow up… hmm… that can be another post about my life in general ;-)

So, anyway, now that I’ve been practicing happiness quite a while and practicing self-love a few years now, I’m learning also to have those deeper, long term relationships – in a non-monogamous setting.
Maybe I’m ready to move to deep, monogamous relationships…. Short or long term, I’m open to what happens, not attached to the outcome, but very attached to being in the present experience to a much higher level than ever before… in a healthy way.

That is scary to me because to do that, I need to end my current, happy, long term, non-monogamous relationships or at least move them in that direction. If I’m attached to those non-monogamous relationships, then there is less room for a monogamous to develop.
I think I’m ready.

In fact, it’s been happening for me a bit, what we think about we attract, right? Law of attraction is powerful!
So, my main squeeze, my soul mate, but not life mate of 5+ years, we’ve been less intimate in recent months due to health condition on his part, some travels, and now, my body has been making me feel less sexy with skin condition flare-ups. Skin issues are my thing, I’ve got 3 or 4 conditions that come and go and right now one has come and stayed a while, with some moderate pain and discomfort as well as a non-sexy look ;-)

Because of that and the fact that my stable boy is now living with roommates and in a house that are all, well, I guess yeah, I’m a snob. Or maybe I just like non-sticky floors and non-stale smoke filled air. I like to breath. Last time I succumbed to my hormones and went over there, I left my coat and bag in the car, went into the bedroom, took off my clothes and made him take them out to the porch! And the heat in the room was broken by a cold breeze through the open window which was a condition of my visit.
When that happened, I realized I may have a problem.

Am I addicted to sex, no… but I do really love orgasms!!!
After that night, a few month ago, I’ve avoided the stable boy's constant invites and pleas to worship and ravish my body. I have to say it’s so tempting! I think that is part of my recent stress that triggered the skin condition so I’d have an excuse to avoid having amazing hot sexy extended multiple orgasms.

Sigh, I want those things, but I just don’t want them under those conditions with that man.
I also haven’t had multiple extended orgasms with main squeeze in a while. Again, me avoiding a little bit because of stuff, but he and I will always be friends, always be close, and always love each other. But he has other women in his life and I’ve had other men. It’s just the way it is.

The only other, kind of current, man lives in another state. Oh my, when he and I are together, wow! Always one of my favorite people to kiss and make out with. My favorite man to wake up with and make love to in the morning (have never woke up with main squeeze, so it's not that anyone is better). Too bad in the over ten years I’ve known him, he has not been emotionally available and only occasionally physically available. Each time I talk with him on the phone or see him in person, I never know if that is the last time. Yes, it’s that infrequent. But it’s so good that I always say yes when we have the opportunity. I want to say no, but interestingly he is finally after all this time, calling more often and actually talking about really scheduling a getaway with me to new places. In the past, I’ve only ever seen him in the state he lives in, where I also lived when we first met. Nearly every time I go back there, he makes time for me and we have amazing visits, sometimes take road trips, go on dates, and spend nights together, he has even drawn baths for me. It’s like a perfect match for those few days, then it’s over.
There have been a couple other men in the picture in the past couple years, significant, but not in my present. I’ll probably share about them in the future, as I share a bit more about some triggers that took me to a pretty dark place recently and may be pushing me to clear my relationships now. But it’s too deep and too dark to write about now.

Let’s just leave off today with the idea that maybe, just maybe, I’m ready to put all this relationship, love, and intimacy practice together into one amazing monogamous experience.
I’m open and getting ready.

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